Sticks and Stones........

Sticks and Stones

 

Sure call me names, go ahead. Too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, go on…..names won’t hurt me, except when they do. Have you ever had a fight with a friend, and it gets out of hand? It goes to the point where you do not know who is right or who is wrong, and all communication just breaks down? It happens.

How do you get back on good terms when name calling starts to replace good communication skills? Sometimes we are immune to it, the name calling comes from a brother or sister or toward a brother or sister, you think it is funny or meant to get a rise. Words can hurt and so can not understanding where they come from and what the real meaning behind it is.

Try to stop and think before you launch into your words. Maybe your bones are not broken but your feelings can break and then you either internalize everything and try become a symbol of what perfect should look like to make the feelings go away. You do not have to walk alone or be perfect. Perfect is something that no one can be or should try to be. Learn to be kind to yourself and aware of how you act and treat others. Everyone is entitled to feel hurt or sad because of someone’s actions but get to the bottom of the problem. Fix the communication breakdown and see how that goes. You may find out that you can improve how you communicate and also help to understand how others do too.

---Ava