Being Invisible

Have you even heard of the musical Dear Evan Hansen? It is based on the Book and has a song that I love called “Waving Through the Window.” The song is really powerful. As school starts the following words mean a lot to kids with social anxiety and fear of the start of a new year. The lyrics go….

We start with stars in our eyes
We start believing that we belong
But every sun doesn't rise
And no one tells you where you went wrong

Step out, step out of the sun
If you keep getting burned
Step out, step out of the sun
Because you've learned, because you've learned

On the outside, always looking in
Will I ever be more than I've always been?
'Cause I'm tap, tap, tapping on the glass
Waving through a window
I try to speak, but nobody can hear
So I wait around for an answer to appear
While I'm watch, watch, watching people pass……….

Kids can be really mean. Kids do not understand outside of their group of friends that other kids just want to fit in too. Just one person who can make a kid feel better by saying “hi” and asking them to sit with you at lunch. If every kid could remember that while they are excited to see their friends, that new kids, awkward kids, shy kids, nervous kids, anxious kids all have to go to school and dread it. The re-starting of the same experience, the fear of meeting people, having to smile and hid their pain. Adults forget. The first day of school is especially torture for anyone who is not a “perfect kid.”


The song continues,

When you're falling in a forest and there's nobody around
Do you ever really crash, or even make a sound?
Did I even make a sound?
Did I even make a sound?
It's like I never made a sound
Will I ever make a sound?

Just like in Evan Hansen, social anxiety is real. The repetition of saying the same thing is a type of anxiety. Imagine a person with special needs who cannot figure out the world, repeating the same thing over and over again or a person who just cannot cope in new situations. This is their reality. Fear, Loneliness…always on the outside looking in, focused on one particular thing because their whole brain is overloaded. Do they matter at all they may ask? Everybody matters.

So I hope your school year is not scary. I hope you have friends and a great teacher or teachers. I hope that you do make a sound and that everyone can hear you. You deserve to be heard.

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Benj Pasek / Justin Paul Waving Through A Window lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.